Recently Read: Who is the pastor’s pastor?

christythomasChristie Thomas, the soon to be retired pastor of the Krum United Methodist Church in Krum, TX, shared today about the circumstances leading to her retirement. Throughout the article she asks the question that many UM pastor’s ask in tough circumstances: “Who is My pastor?”

For me, certainly not my District Superintendent at the time.

Apparently, my spouse had phoned the DS with a list of extremely serious accusations against me. Instead of being referred, properly, to our very effective SRPC, the former DS had that non-church member write up the charges. He then enlisted another member of our clergy connection to evaluate those charges.

I learned nothing of this ad-hoc committee on investigation, the nature of the charges or the verdict rendered until a notebook, nicely documented and tabbed, showed up in my office with a  note saying all the information had been copied to the Bishop and the new DS.

Clearly, trusting this DS with news of my impending divorce would not be a wise choice.

via Two Months, Seventeen Days: The Pain Behind the Decision | thoughtfulpastor.

You will want to click on the link to read the full story.

For those of you who are clergy, who is YOUR pastor in the face of difficult circumstances? Can you trust your D.S. with confidential information or do you feel it will used to harm you and your career? Where are the places where you can share your pain and be vulnerable about the struggles you face?

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Pete Harris

I maintain healthy accountability with clergy outside the UMC…to support me, challenge me, and to minister to me. The other question to ask is: "Who is pastor to my spouse?" That answer makes me weep.

Mark Moore
Mark Moore

Unfortunately her story is not unique.

Bert Bagley

No clergy can reply to this in the same way that one could 12 years ago or so. Things have changed. Of course some of the very folks who hold positions of authority are so removed from the local church that it is quite sad.

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